Seasons of Love (not by Donna Summer)
Guest Blogger today is my very good friend DJ BEHR in Chicago. He was telling me about his observations and theories of the "Seasons of Love". I was quite amused by it all, especially since the original source being refered was Bigmuscle.com. But rather than me explain it, DJ BEHR has graciously done so...
Seasons of Love
Well it's that time again. The time in which relationships tend to fizzle, die, or put on life support for one last time. What I'm talking about it the cycle gay men tend to go through with relationships. I first came to this theory 5 or so years ago.
My theory is that there are certain times of the year that relationships reach a breaking point. The person you are with suddenly doesn't do it for you anymore. The little things you ignored suddenly turn into the deal breakers. Here is my breakdown of when a relationship is most vulnerable:
Spring Cleaning - It usually tends to happen in April. The weather is warm, your hormones get a kick start and suddenly the man you never took a second glance at suddenly is someone you must experience. Perfect time to end your dead end relationship because the Summer is right around the corner and you have this desire to not be tied down. Mr. Perfect is just waiting for you the next time you go to the beach, bar or hell, that dark alley you love to cruise.
Mid Summer Dump - This usually happens in July. So you went against your inner voices and decided you wanted to be in a relationship. Perhaps you wanted someone to camp with, take trips or just show off that a hot stud is around your arm. Suddenly you realize that Mr. Perfect is a dud. No problem, you still have a few months left of the summer to enjoy being single so dump them after the 4th of July Holiday to allow maximum single time.
End of Summer Dump - Having a BF after Labor Day is like wearing white after Labor Day. Your summer pal was OK but not worth hanging onto when the weather gets colder. Horrible thoughts of actually spending 1-on-1 time with him drive you to end it after the Summer social season draws to and end.
Unhappy Holidays - So you made through the initial snuggle stage and realized that laying naked on that bear skin rug in front of the fireplace isn't as romantic with your BF as you thought. There is a major problem though. The holidays! Do you really want to bring your BF to meet Aunt Tillie? Do you really want to be subjected to his dysfunctional family? The final straw, you just don't want to put any more into this especially when you are faced with the cost of buying him a gift. The thought of spending hours and hours at Macys thinking "what the hell do I get him?" When you finally think a salt and pepper shaker is the end all gift for him, you realize you must end this before all those holiday events happen and gift bought.
I know I've exaggerated a bit but I stick by the times of year as when faulty relationships end. I've noticed while looking through BigMuscleBear.com that no less than 20 profiles that had a partner suddenly do not. Take a look around you and see if this is true with the people you know, met or seen profiles of. The Spring Cleaning is happening a bit earlier this year but it's well on its way.
Seasons of Love
Well it's that time again. The time in which relationships tend to fizzle, die, or put on life support for one last time. What I'm talking about it the cycle gay men tend to go through with relationships. I first came to this theory 5 or so years ago.
My theory is that there are certain times of the year that relationships reach a breaking point. The person you are with suddenly doesn't do it for you anymore. The little things you ignored suddenly turn into the deal breakers. Here is my breakdown of when a relationship is most vulnerable:
Spring Cleaning - It usually tends to happen in April. The weather is warm, your hormones get a kick start and suddenly the man you never took a second glance at suddenly is someone you must experience. Perfect time to end your dead end relationship because the Summer is right around the corner and you have this desire to not be tied down. Mr. Perfect is just waiting for you the next time you go to the beach, bar or hell, that dark alley you love to cruise.
Mid Summer Dump - This usually happens in July. So you went against your inner voices and decided you wanted to be in a relationship. Perhaps you wanted someone to camp with, take trips or just show off that a hot stud is around your arm. Suddenly you realize that Mr. Perfect is a dud. No problem, you still have a few months left of the summer to enjoy being single so dump them after the 4th of July Holiday to allow maximum single time.
End of Summer Dump - Having a BF after Labor Day is like wearing white after Labor Day. Your summer pal was OK but not worth hanging onto when the weather gets colder. Horrible thoughts of actually spending 1-on-1 time with him drive you to end it after the Summer social season draws to and end.
Unhappy Holidays - So you made through the initial snuggle stage and realized that laying naked on that bear skin rug in front of the fireplace isn't as romantic with your BF as you thought. There is a major problem though. The holidays! Do you really want to bring your BF to meet Aunt Tillie? Do you really want to be subjected to his dysfunctional family? The final straw, you just don't want to put any more into this especially when you are faced with the cost of buying him a gift. The thought of spending hours and hours at Macys thinking "what the hell do I get him?" When you finally think a salt and pepper shaker is the end all gift for him, you realize you must end this before all those holiday events happen and gift bought.
I know I've exaggerated a bit but I stick by the times of year as when faulty relationships end. I've noticed while looking through BigMuscleBear.com that no less than 20 profiles that had a partner suddenly do not. Take a look around you and see if this is true with the people you know, met or seen profiles of. The Spring Cleaning is happening a bit earlier this year but it's well on its way.
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